Tuesday, 12 December 2006

The one with...expectation..

there's a saying, 'expect the unexpected'.. and there's also a saying, 'try to live without expectation'.. and i personally say, ‘what is life without expectation’.. to me, as much as we try to live without any expectation, the expectation itself is built up on its own out of our conscious mind.. we tend to have expectation when we go through a series of trend / pattern.. i.e. when we are so used with something and we get too complacent with that certain something. being human, we are easily being drawn to the safety and comfort of the familiar surroundings. senang kate, expectation is formed naturally kalau dah ade routine. for example, kalau dah memang tiap2 hari pukul 8.30am mesti ade orang ajak pergi breakfast , so pagi tu kalau lapar cemane pun dalam mind mesti dah terpikir ‘takpe.. jap gi ade laa tu orang ajak pergi breakfast’.. or, another example, it is a society norm that by the time we reach certain age we should already have achieved certain something. automatically we will have that pressure to meet that expectation when the time comes.

so in a way, to expect is human.

but, the twist behind expectation is, do we expect realistically? because, if we don’t, that’s when an unmatched expectation leads to frustration, giving rise to the emotion of disappointment. i mean, of course, if something happens without us expecting for it also can be a total surprise. so it can lead to both sides of emotions.

question is, how to expect realistically? after all, life is full of uncertainties. can some common sense kicks in the chain of thought when we deal with expectation? i don’t know. coz its too subjective. its up to individual. it depends on situation.

things happen when we least expect for it. is it true? could be a yes. could be a no also. there’s a lot of arguments surrounding this one simple statement. so am gonna leave that as an open ended statement. (malas nk elaborate dah sebenarnyer.. hehehe :P )

some quotes regarding ‘expectation’ i found on the net:

Abraham Lincoln: The best thing about the future is that it only comes one day at a time.

William Congreve: Uncertainty and expectation are the joys of life.

Earl Nightingale: We tend to live up to our expectations.

Claude M. Bristol: We usually get what we anticipate.

Brian Tracy: We will always tend to fulfill our own expectation of ourselves.

Viktor E. Frankl: What was really needed was a fundamental change in our attitude toward life. We had to learn ourselves and, furthermore, we had to teach the despairing men, that it did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us.

Benjamin Disraeli: What we anticipate seldom occurs, what we least expected generally happens.

John Lubbock: What we see depends mainly on what we look for.

Brian Tracy: Whatever we expect with confidence becomes our own self-fulfilling prophecy.

Michael Jordan: You have to expect things of yourselves before you can do them.

Brian Tracy: Your attitude is an expression of your values, beliefs and expectations.

Henry Ward Beecher: Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody else expects of you. Never excuse yourself. Never pity yourself. Be a hard master to yourself - and be lenient to everybody else.

Norman Vincent Peale: If you paint in your mind a picture of bright and happy expectations, you put yourself into a condition conducive to your goal.

Abraham Maslow: If you plan on being anything less than you are capable of being, you will probably be unhappy all the days of your life.

Horace: Life is largely a matter of expectation.

Katherine Hepburn: Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get – only what you are expecting to give.

my personal belief? go on moderation. i always fear of putting high expectation out of my own life. for i fear of falling. for i am scared of high place. for i fear of falling from a high place. and being left alone at the bottom.


  1. its funny how I always put a goal or something to expect, like a benchmark, but I don't put high hope.

    hopeless on expectations.

    if you fear falling, how would you know on rising and getting up.

    if you fear high places, what indicates the level of height which you can bare or not.

    if you don't want to be left alone at the bottom, do you actually think the bottom is the worst?

    many wonderful things can happen at the bottom of the well, we don't dare to look down or even go down through the bucket rope fearing we might be left down and die alone.

    abyss defines as a very deep or bottomless hole or chasm.

    cosmic defines as immeasurably extended in time and space

    lilia, hold my hand, where expectations are benchmark, and hope are guides, but future are not meant to be seen, and by feeling the presence in your heart, is where you find the strength to put one leg in front of the other, and march ahead, regardless where you're heading to, up or down, back or forth, left or right.

    (saya sebenarnya pening, sudah tak paham sudah apa yang saya tulis, tu la, byk sgt baca poems and philosophy books, heh.)

  2. hehe.. agak pening jugak.. but i can see your points, and i can tell whats ur sincere intention.. :) thanks so much abby..